This poem is the second in a series of three that was inspired by
Meat Loaf’s performance of
Jim Steinman’s
wonderful song Two Out Of Three Ain’t Bad;
which in turn was inspired by Elvis Presley’s
performance of Maurice Mysels
and Ira Kosloff’s song
I Want You, I Need You, I Love You.
Love is such a tricky emotion; it so easily gets confused with
infatuation and obsession. Love is completely selfless
— all thoughts are directed toward what the other person needs.
Infatuation and obsession are completely selfish — all
thoughts revolve around what you need from the other person.
Wisdom and sobriety lie in recognizing the difference. As every
rehab counselor knows, it is a junkie’s desperate, but
constant, cry: I need it!
Specific religious beliefs aside, this is still one of (if not) the
best definitions of love I have ever seen: 4Love
suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade
itself, is not puffed up; 5does not behave rudely, does not
seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6does not
rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7bears all
things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they
will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is
knowledge, it will vanish away.
— 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, New King James Version (NKJV).
Sometimes, one of the hardest things in life is recognizing that your
feelings for someone are not and never will be reciprocated; or even
worse, that they are not healthy. Then you must let go and move on, no
matter how much you think you cannot live without that person — à la
The Beatles’ classic performance of
George Harrison’s
song I Need You.